Rob Judge – The 4 elements of Game

The Good
Very practical. Sticks to priorities. Simply related. Excellent value for money. Great for kicking guys who have read a lot of advice but not got results into shape.
The Bad\sStorytelling section get complicated and advice not as good, lacks some clear advice on how to identify what’s missing in your ‘balance’
The Bottom Line
Good value for money. Simple to understand. Very practical advice. Suited for beginners and also for guys who are intermediate and feeling cluttered with dating advice. Really good at 3 things:
1. Prioritization on only the important
2. Making advice simpler and more practical
3. Advice that takes account of your natural abilities and customizes what you need to do based on that baseline
FULL DETAILED REVIEW

This was a refreshing read. Refreshing for its simplicity and careful prioritization of the things that really matter when you are learning to get better with women.

Sticking to the 80/20 Rule

From start to finish Rob takes you through the most important things he sees in dating women. They have kept it to a small number, and they are careful to tackle the most important first. Which brings me to…

They said it – in a community of men studying to get better with women – no one talks about the biggest reason for men not getting results. They don’t put it first, they don’t give it the priority it deserves.

Rob and Zack said it. Drive… (another word for stepping up and pushing things forward with women) (another word for stepping up and pushing things forward with women). The 4 Elements of Game dedicates the first quarter of the book to inspiring you to focus on drive before everything else, and telling you how to do it. I salute them – it had to be said like this. And they do it well.

Very. Simple. Very. Practical.

It’s all in the words… Rob, the write of the book, reveals that he is a writer at one point in the book – and this doesn’t surprise me. His use of words, and naming of concepts throughout the book have obviously carefully been chosen. He manages to make most subjects simple to read and understand. At many times he reduces everything down to a simple phrase that helps you to get it all. One of these diamonds is:\s”Oversell everything in you life but nothing about yourself.”

For those who have read a lot of dating advice, you’ll know that this sums up succinctly a lot of what you’ve learned and read about communication.

Reading through the book it was obvious to me that these guys have spent a lot of time meeting and dating women. They get it, and have been able to translate all their experience into practical – short advice.

An example of the practicality of the book, is the use of ‘conversation templates’ for you to use. There aren’t that many of them, and to be honest it is stuff I and many guys have either known or read about for a long time – but… they have translated that knowledge into a few templates which make it easy to follow.

Easy to Relate to

Something else that Rob does well in this book is relate to the reader. He builds both him and Zack up at the beginning of the book, and later.. throughout the book he gives you well chosen stories to illustrate points. Many of these are screw ups where Rob and Zack learned their lessons. Many guys will see themselves in these situations. I was glad to see that the traditional barrier that Dating Coaches put up of being semi-perfect wasn’t here.

You can get a better feel that these guys are just like you, and they’ve had, and still have their screw ups. But, that it doesn’t hinder them from having the success with ladies they have longed for.

I appreciated this genuineness and think it will benefit males by making it all more approachable and accessible for the normal guy. They tell it like it is when it comes to errors. They happen, and they don’t just magically vanish one day. But it isn’t a huge issue.

The writing style is likewise lighthearted. So it’s not a difficult read; in fact, it’s rather delightful.

tailored to your requirements

I’ve never come across dating advise that has attempted to tailor the counsel to the student.

The fact is that each student is unique, and he has weaker and stronger aspects of himself that are good in attracting ladies.

When someone learns from dating advice, he runs the danger of exaggerating something that he was previously good at. And the fact was that he needed to concentrate on improving another aspect of his abilities.

The four aspects of the game attempt to address this through the concept of achieving equilibrium between the four elements. They explain and provide instances of how a person might be excellent in one area but need to work on another to balance it out and improve.

This is an essential problem, and many students are counseled about these concerns during dating bootcamps – but this is the only homestudy program I’ve seen that attempts to address it. Excellent work.

What Didn’t Go So Well?

Rob and Zack’s proposed ‘balancing’ mechanism appeals to me. And I believe it will assist many men in overcoming their flaws. The book would have gone much farther if they had spent some time assisting a guy decide what parts he needed to work on further in a structured manner. The book’s clarity and simplicity are excellent, but this area was not given the same attention. Some males may take away less than they could since they are unable to identify their own specific flaws. The part on narrative deviated from the rest of the book’s format and became quite difficult, with quite a few rules and – basically, it wasn’t something you were going to execute simply and quickly. Unlike much of the book’s substance, which adhered to that norm.

I also felt they were ‘over-reaching’ in this portion, as if they didn’t fully understand how to educate this specific facet of their dating method.

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