Darius Belejevas – The WOW-Factor

Darius Belejevas – The WOW-Factor

I was never a particularly handsome young man.

I get what you’re thinking:

“Noooo… Darius, I’m sure you’re underappreciating yourself. “You couldn’t have looked that horrible.”

That’s a wonderful sentiment, and I appreciate that, but consider this:

This is a shot I took some years ago to show how I would appear if I stopped grooming myself and wore my old clothing. It was also part of the experiment to determine how soon I could regain my “natural” appearance.

Something along the lines of:

So image my embarrassment when I showed “the ugly” photo to a good friend of mine who has known me for years and literally said this to me.

“Oh, I remember you looking like that…”

Seriously?!

I didn’t want to appear like a friggin Neanderthal, and I didn’t want to be ugly, like every other intelligent man on this beautiful planet.

And it was a sad and frightening realization to learn that this was once the best I could achieve.

I used to study a lot of forums and books on “how to get good with females” back when this “very sexy” appearance was my default.

Nearly every one of them claimed that “looks don’t matter” and “you just need to be confident” and “learn these 3 tactics”.

And guess what? I truly believed it.

Despite seeing firsthand how my handsome friends were hooking up with ladies and getting into relationships with the hottest of them, I was under the impression that as long as I had a shower and wore a clean t-shirt, I was fine to go and how I presented myself beyond that point didn’t matter.

Two Outfits That Forever Changed My Life

When I eventually got into college, I was so desperate and unhappy with not having any success with ladies that I decided to do the unimaginable and challenge the “looks don’t matter” experts.

I’ve chosen to modify my image and the way I dress.

Because I understood nothing about clothes, what products go well together, how garments should fit, or how to use colors in an outfit at the time, I contacted a friend who was studying fashion design to assist me and go shopping with me.

She then demonstrated how different items might be worn together and assisted me in putting together two ensembles from head to toe.

I’ll confess that I was hesitant at the moment.

The costumes she chose for me were completely different from what I was used to wearing, and I didn’t feel very at ease in them at first.

But when you’re desperate enough, you suck it up and do what you’re told.

I couldn’t believe what I was seeing the first time I donned one of those clothes. Walking around the university campus seemed like a scene from a movie when a character gets a makeover and the entire universe reacts differently to him.

I could literally see women looking at me!

But the truly mind-blowing event was still to come…

The One Who Almost Made It

As any desperate enough male can tell you, when you haven’t had any in a long time, forming “crushes” on gorgeous ladies doesn’t take long (or in my case, ever).

That crush for me was on the sexiest lady in our dorm – GOOD FREAKIN’ JOB, BRAIN!

So it didn’t take long for me to accept an invitation to a dorm party that I knew she would attend.

I opted to wear one of my friend’s dresses, but to be honest, despite having all sorts of NSFW dreams about this girl as the party day approached, I didn’t really anticipate anything.

I mean, I was still bashful and dorky, and she was… well, SHE.

So image my stunned expression as I tried to figure out what the hell was going on when the night of the party arrived and it was HER inviting ME to join her on the dancing!

Is this some big hoax being played on me by the whole dorm? Will everyone start laughing and yelling “oh my god, he actually fell for it if I say yes?” if I say yes. What a moron! Hahahaha!”

(Did I mention I was struggling with poor self-esteem at the time?)

Anyway,

I first declined, but she pushed, and after witnessing her turn down other guys (I mean, have you seen this girl?! ), I agreed. Of course, other guys were trying to get into her trousers! ), so I caved and went to dance with her.

You should’ve seen my silly expression!

I swear to you, I felt like the happiest man in the planet at the time!

We ended up kissing that night and… that was it. At least for the time being.

But,

When you go from being glanced over and ignored by women no matter how hard you try to having one of the most stunning women you’ve ever encountered take the initiative, take the first step, and even persevere in getting with you, you’ve arrived.

Let’s just say it’s one of those times when your brain begins to rethink your entire existence.

And do you know what made that night different from every other night that had gone before it?

It wasn’t some complicated NLP process or new kino technology.

I just altered my image, how I dressed, and how I presented myself to the rest of the world.

Style became a passion, even an obsession for me after that night of comprehending picture.

I wanted to discover and comprehend how something as basic as the clothes we wear can have such a big impact on how others view and perceive us, and how we are treated.

It turns out that it’s not as simple as it appears.

But trying to study everything I could about men’s appearance, particularly in the context of meeting and dating women, proved to be more difficult than it appeared when my fashion designer buddy advised me on what clothing to wear…

When I started exploring online, I ran into my first issue: no one was truly educating males how to appear nice.

Sure, there were men’s fashion blogs and websites, but the most of them appeared to be written by and for guys who are “married with children” and seeking for ways to look good in khakis.

I mean, how could I take someone who hasn’t been in the profession for years’ advise on how to dress to meet and seem good to women seriously?

There were also “how to attract females” websites and forums.

For the most part, they ignored the question of how to dress and in most cases resorted to the generic “just purchase a fitted shirt and a blazer and you’re great”.

(Spoiler warning: BULLSHIT!)

So my “ingenious” idea was to seek out and experiment with bits and pieces of advise that both men’s fashion experts and dating gurus agreed on.

This was a long and laborious procedure. I squandered a lot of time and money hunting for clothing that were butt-ugly, ill-fitting, and occasionally just unwearable.

I mean, I knew I wanted to seem more handsome; I could see other attractive men clothing sexily (typically with a stunning woman on their arm), but when I attempted to imitate them, do what they were doing, I constantly fell short.

I would gaze into the mirror in defeat and think “why can they do it and I can’t? “Am I destined to be the unattractive nerdy man for the rest of my life?”

We Are Men Who Never Give Up

If life were a movie, this would be the time where a larger-than-life character would come into my life and teach me a lesson.

Unfortunately, this was not the case.

Instead, over a decade of trial and error ensued, with me exploring in the real world and watching how various women reacted to my picture.

If all of the self-help books I’ve read over the years have taught me anything, it’s that as a guy, you don’t quit up when things get tough. You get up, dust yourself off, quit whining, and go for your objective once more.

If you want to be a handsome man, you must do everything it takes.

Here are just a few of the clothes I’ve worn over the years: some worked perfectly and qualified as my “I’m Getting Laid Tonight” outfits, while others failed badly and could definitely be classified as a form of contraception (can you guess which ones are which?)

Oh, and remember that lady I had a huge crush on in college?

We really met some years later, and the outfit that eventually clinched the deal may be seen in the lower left corner.

I’m here to assist you as well.

After reading yet another forum thread asking for guidance on how to dress for evenings out and seeing half a dozen comments with advise that, if applied, would destroy that poor bastard’s night, I thought it was time to develop a site for guys who want to learn how to look beautiful while meeting women.

Nor for job interviews, not for impressing your relatives and uncles at a family reunion, and certainly not for dazzling some fashion snobs. No!

Dressing particularly for increasing your sex appeal, for appearing your most attractive self in a real way depending on your personality, body type, lifestyle, and the sort of women you’re most drawn to.

Sexy Style for Joe was born in this manner.

Soon after, I began giving personal style counseling to guys like you and me. It turns out that the tactics I utilized worked equally as well, if not better, for others.

I immediately became so confident in my abilities to assist people improve their image and obtain better success with women that I began making a promise that no one else dared to make:

“IF YOU DO NOT SEE A SIGNIFICANT IMPROVEMENT IN HOW WOMEN REACT TO YOU, I WILL REFUND YOUR MONEY, NO QUESTIONS ASKED.”

The issue was that working one-on-one with someone takes a significant amount of time and so comes at a high cost. Something that many of the guys who read SSfJ couldn’t afford.

So the next step was to organize all I’d learned about image, men’s style, and clothing, and to build a school on looking seductive like you’d never seen before!

Eleven months later, “The Wow! Factor” course was developed with the express purpose of guiding you through the process of dressing sexily. To become the most sexiest and appealing version of oneself.

And, indeed,

I know what you’re thinking: if something seems too good to be true, it probably is.

So let me pause for a bit and allow folks who have been down this path before you give their insights: