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Are you addicted to an emotional manipulator? Do you blame that person for your feelings of frustration, anger, guilt, and dissatisfaction?

Despite all that, do you believe that you can’t let go? It’s not easy, but you can.

Let’s face it, emotional manipulators can be powerfully magnetic and amazingly perceptive. They have an uncanny ability to sense when you are at your wit’s end, and just at the moment you think you can’t take anymore, they back off and become more reasonable—maybe even thoughtful or funny or attentive.

This does not mean that they have suddenly gained insight or won’t go back to their selfish, demanding ways. It simply means that they sense you are about to move away from their grasp, and they don’t want to lose their advantage over you. By being more pleasant in those moments, they keep you close and under control.

People who emotionally caretake for a manipulator or narcissist give up their sense of self to be who and what their partner needs them to be. These “emotional caretakers” are often very good at being aware of others’ needs and wants, but they lose connection to their own. Such people are very vulnerable and responsive to even the slightest positive indicators from the emotional manipulator. The caretaker is so hopeful and so needs the manipulator to see and understand the love and care they provide that even small positive moments register as having enormous value.

Letting go of an emotional manipulator means giving up needing their approval, their validation, and their view of the world—and tuning into your own self-approval, self-validation, and self-view. As long as you are trying to fit into the manipulator’s distorted perspective, or trying to get him or her to see and understand your perspective, you will be lost in a labyrinth of perplexity and confusion.

Letting go of an emotional manipulator means figuring out for yourself what you feel, what you want to do, and then sticking with it. The emotional manipulator wants you to match her or his picture of you and will go to extremes, both positive and negative, to get you to conform to her or his preferred image.

As you may already know, not matching what emotional manipulators want exposes you to their anger and disapproval. Letting go means that you disengage yourself from trying to please them or trying to get their support for what you feel, think, or do. This means not caring so much what the manipulator thinks about you. You know you often don’t approve or like what the manipulator does or says—so why does it matter to you how the emotional manipulator thinks and feels about you?

That’s the key. It’s not just that emotional manipulators keep you bound to them, it’s that you keep yourself bound to them by needing and seeking their approval and validation, which, of course, they give or withhold to get what they want from you. They know just how much to give and take to keep you coming back.

You have control over the choices you make. What you don’t have control over are the choices that manipulators make.

Focus on the what, why, when, and how of your own life—and give up trying to manipulate the manipulators. Let their demands go. Let them focus on fulfilling their own needs while you work on taking care of your wants and needs.

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